Aw, young love. I have no idea what it's like. Yep you guessed it, this post will be about dating. Ok, we've had a billion firesides, conference talks, sacrament talks, activities, etc. that have been about dating. Boys, are you really trying? Girls, are you really trying? No, we are not. Dating isn't that hard. If there's one thing that I've observed about dating, it's that we(as in young single adults) think that dating has to be an extravagant event. Guess what folks? It is not so. If we all had the mind set of going on more small, simple, and frequent dates then we would learn that dates don't need to be elaborate or expensive. Plus it's easier to get to know someone if you go on more frequent dates than one overdrawn date. Just sayin.
You know I've never really understood how girls get asked on dates time after time after time. I mean there are those girls out there that get asked all the time, and there are others who don't get asked...ever. Guess which category I'm in? Yep, the never asked. Seriously, I've only been on 9 dates since I turned 16, and 4 of those were dances where I asked the guy so technically I've only been on 5...pathetic? Yes I know. But how do girls do it? Everybody tells me to attend as many activities I can, be happy, be friendly, be outgoing, act interested in boys, talk to boys, etc etc. I do all of these things, and I still don't get asked out. What's my problem? I mean I know I'm tall and I can be intimidating, but I think I am an awesome person! I can cook, bake, sew, clean, play the piano and flute, sing, swim my heart out, decorate, drive big things(a.k.a D-7 CATS), camp, hike, play games, ski(snow not water), and there's many other things that I can do and things that I love to do. Some of friends have told me that they don't know why I'm not married yet, what does that mean? They tell me that I'm awesome and that some guy is going to be very lucky to have me someday, but there must be something wrong with me because I'm not getting asked out on dates.
I've narrowed my problem down two reasons as to why I'm not getting asked out: 1. I don't flirt very well. I can, but it's so subtle that nobody notices or I just end up teasing people more than I flirt. 2. I'm really not that pretty. I'm tall, but I'm not one of those skinny tall girls ya know? It's hard to find a guy around here that's taller than me and if he is taller than me, he's most likely married or dating a short girl. Short girls, grrr. Haha, just kidding I'm just jealous. Also, there's only been one guy that's ever told me that I'm pretty. I mean there are times when I say, "I'm not pretty," and there will be guys around and they will tell me then that I'm pretty, but I don't want a pity compliment. I like sincere compliments.
I like dating, I just wish that it would happen a little more. The end.
Paula I dont know where I have been to miss all these awesome post. You are already being a great missionary, you have reminded me to read my scriptures.. as soon as I'm done :D. There are a couple things you should know. First of all I have had at least 3 separate conversations with guys (mainly sean and Dallas) about how pretty you are, and i did not even bring it up. second of all *awkward comment coming* my mom said that my dad said that all guys really care about is boobs and butt so really i think you have the perfect body *told ya* honestly i think you are doing every thing right and its these darn boys who either are to lazy to start life or just are not cool enough to date. which brings me to my next question, do you think that most guys are actually dating? I'm not sure that they are, I think you are not the only one not going out. anyways love ya, and i think you have a right to be frustrated you are an awesome girl (thats why i like hanging out with you so much) and i am so excited to meet the guy you fall in love with because he better be just as awesome
ReplyDeleteHaha, oh Dixie how I love you!! That awkward comment was so funny, but thanks for letting me know that I have the perfect body!
ReplyDeleteTo answer your question, it depends on the guy. I have quite a few different groups of guys that I hang out with and some date more than others. I'm actually surprised on how many dates these guys go on...seriously, I didn't think they were doing what they're supposed to be doing but they are. But there are quite a few guys that don't ask girls out at all. It's sad really. So it really depends on the guy and how afraid he is to ask a girl out. Haha.
I think you're awesome too by the way!! And I can't wait to meet your little man!! He looks absolutely adorable. :) Love ya!